Dating After the DivorceJumping back into the dating pool can be a terrifying time, especially for single moms. Once the sting of the divorce has somewhat faded, we all begin to wonder when we should consider dating again. For us, dating is a much more serious issue to consider because we have children.Going through a divorce is traumatic. Unless you have experienced one first hand, you can not possibly know how exhausting a divorce can be. Every sense we have gets pushed to its limits. The decision to divorce is heroic. Braving the fight is a testament to ones pure will. So many of us stay quiet instead of risking rocking the boat and upsetting our circumstances even if we are dying because of them. For those of us who are willing to go through the trauma a divorce will create, a new life awaits.With our new life comes of course new experiences. We need to learn to be more self reliant than ever. We learn to manage on our own in ways we never thought possible, and we survive. Eventually time passes and we begin to wonder when we should begin to date. It is a time to be extremely conscious, because we may still be vulnerable.I suggest that women who have come through a divorce wait at least a year before they begin to date again. Because most marriages end due to the consequences of living enmeshed with one another, it takes time for us to become separate individuals. Just because our spouse no longer sleeps in our bed, does not mean he is not still in our head. A divorce is simply an end to a marital contract. It has nothing to do with an emotional divorce. When we have children, it is far more serious a decision to date than for those who do not have children. Single moms need to be extremely cautious as to who they introduce to their children, as well as who they give their hearts to.
