Dating in your 20s and even early 30s is a lot different than dating in your 20s. You’ve experienced more, have more, hopefully know more and are more comfortable with yourself. Given all of this, following is some dating advice for the 40+ woman.1. Do Tell: In spite of what a lot of dating advice gurus will tell you, spill the beans about what you want and expect. I’ve found, it’s not what you say, but how you say
it.If you come off as desperate, angry and/or uncompromising, then no matter what you say, it will be perceived as a demand. For example, instead of saying, “I don’t like the dating scene and I would love to settle down and get married (again),” try”After being out of the dating scene for so long, it’s intimidating to be out here again. But, I’ve embraced the experience and am taking it as a chance to learn more about myself. One thing I’ve learned is that when the right person comes along (again), I’d love to give domesticity another shot.”Saying this does several things to put your date at ease: a) it shows you’re not desperate (eg, when the right person comes along again); b) shows that you embrace challenges (eg, taking it as a chance to learn more about myself); and c) shows you’re not afraid to be vulnerable (eg, it’s intimidating to be out here again).And, work to mean every word of this. So by all means, get your point across, just do it in a way that doesn’t intimidate your date, or make you look desperate.2. Date Outside of Your Comfort Zone: I once read a story about a woman who went on a year-long dating odyssey. She decided that whoever asked her out, she would go out with them, no matter what.She even went out with a homeless guy! Now, I’m not saying you have to go that far, but don’t shoot for the same ole “type” every time. I have some personal experience with this. My fiancé is quite a few years younger than I am. At 40, no one ever could have told me that I would wind up with someone in their 20s (Demi, I’m with ya girl!).
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